It’s official. The Indian market is flooded with self pleasure toys both online and offline. According to a report, the sale of sex toys went up by 65% during the 2020 pandemic lockdown in India. With the plethora of options available, finding the right sex toy for you can be a lot like finding someone to date. It can be overwhelming with the choices and the wrong purchases can cost you more than just monetarily. Plus, you go in blind not knowing what to expect when you’re shopping for sex toys (and partners). So how do you navigate this seemingly complicated maze?
The following tips will hopefully guide you to the right choices:
1. KNOW THYSELF
Socretes had it right with the saying ‘Know Thyself and you shall know the secrets of the universe.’ Except, definitely, maybe, he wasn’t talking about female orgasms. Poor guy probably didn’t know how well his proverb could apply to the world of female pleasure. To put this into practice, ask yourself some important explorative questions like “What do I enjoy most about sex?” or “What part of my body do I love the most?” or “What types of sensations do I enjoy on my clitoris?” or “What is my favourite type of clitoral touch?”
Learning what the answers to these questions could lead you to the right kind of sex toy. For example, if you prefer oral sex over fingering during climax, you might want to consider buying a suction-based vibrator that will mimic the effects of oral sex. In another case, if you are among the rare selection of women who orgasm with penetrative sex more than clitoral pleasure, you might want to consider buying a penetrative vibrator that could double up as an external stimulator too. The Cresendo Rabbit Massager fits the description perfectly.
It’s all about knowing your own vulva, clitoris, and pleasure preferences before putting that money on the table.
2. BIGGER THE SIZE DOESN’T MEAN BIGGER THE PLEASURE
Size matters, yes. But not in the way that we’re conditioned to think about. Having a large sized vibrator does not guarantee more intense pleasure. As it is in sex, so it is in self-pleasure. 90% of sexual satisfaction comes from right technique and patience than it comes from the size of your male partner’s erection. Similarly, with sex toys, you need to experiment with techniques without vibrators first to see what kind of pressure, movements and touch helps you reach climax. Depending on your finding, you could buy a toy that fulfils that need. For example, if you like feeling multiple types of strokes on your clitoris and vulva to climax, consider buying a vibrator
that has multiple settings and modes.The Electro – Pleasure Egg with Remote comes with a variety of modes that could be the best playful tool for your experimentative moods.
3. CONSIDER THE TYPE OF PLEASURE YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE WITH YOUR TOY
Vibrators largely offer five types of pleasure sensations: clitoral, an internal-clitoral combo, internal, anal, and double penetration (anal + vaginal). If you’re unsure about what kind of sensations you enjoy, think about the areas, strokes, and intensities you enjoy and take your time to experiment without tools in different areas.
A vibrator is more than just a plaything. It is an investment in your own pleasure, and by extension, your general outlook and well-being. Choosing what kind of pleasure you want to experience, you choose yourself.
4. MATERIAL MATTERS
Some experienced users would argue that material may be the most important aspect of a vibrator or a sex toy. You’re engaging with yourself with your sense of touch, after all. What material you’d like to begin with goes a long way in piquing curiosity and your climax.
Most sex shops caution against buying jelly-based or porous material vibrators as there have been reports of people experiencing chemical burns. The non-porous ones, i.e, glass, wood, stainless steel, and medical grade silicone are all safe options to begin your self-pleasure journey with.
5. FAMILIARISE, BUT KEEP IT SIMPLE
Sometimes, the bottomline is that you need your toy to buzz right. So while making an investment in a sex toy, make sure to check that the buzzing sensation has quite the range and can please you in different moods. Consider that masturbation doesn’t always become a planned activity. Sometimes, women use vibrators almost as a stress-release quickie or just because we’re bored. The buzz needs to be able to adjust and stimulate almost immediately or not just depend on us “being in the mood.” So check for what kind of pleasure settings the sex toy offers before purchasing. It’s impossible to go wrong with a classic, when in doubt. Take for example, MsChief’s Vibrato, a pleasure spot throbber. It’s designed to help you reach climax in the easiest and most comfortable manner possible.
6. BE MINDFUL OF STORAGE AND CLEANING
Do you live by yourself? Do you live with a partner? Or do you live with your family? Consider the privacy and storage options you’ll have access to at home before making a purchase. Vibrators require proper cleaning and care and should be stored in cool, dry places. Ask yourself what kind of time and storage you’d be able to dedicate to sex toy maintenance and make a purchase accordingly. Buying coextensive maintenance at the get-go could distract you from the main objective – having a good time by yourself!
